This is nothing morbid, just triggered when I attended my uncle's funeral on Good Friday, and by one of those pesky MSN pop-ups writing about Jeanette Aw's views about her new show on funeral directors or whatever..
Anyway, this is what I want for mine (long live Shirley Tham!):
1) A Buddhist funeral.
I was impressed by how quietly dignified the Buddhist funeral is, as opposed to the Taoist ones I attended for my great/grandfathers/mothers'. Although they all died before I turned 12, my enduring and non-too-endearing impressions of the funerals were: NOISY! The cymbals and what-nots gave me a real headache, in addition to ear trauma.
I can only tolerate such loud noise for lion dance.
2) Lion dance (Southern lions)
Strange? But it's a very interesting aspect of Chinese culture, isn't it? And after being claimed by the Bataks in Sumatra and Dayaks in Sarawak, I would like to pronounce to the world once and for all that I'm 100% Chinese-Cantonese (as far as I know).
And the southern lions are especially cute - them with the expressive, flirtatious eyes. They'll be a feast for the eyes for bored visitors. At least I'm not asking for dragon dances - they would be really over-the-top.
3) Music
The prerequisite 'Nam mo o me tuo fo' is a must, of course, and I quite like the song, really. It's the definitive Buddhist chant and only one I know, actually. But I think playing it 24/7 ad nauseum will literally induce nausea, so I'd like it interspersed with
* Mozart's divertimentoes, Chopin's etudes, Tchaikovsky's less 'emo' pieces like Nutcracker suite, Liszt's one-and-only-hit-whose-title-I-can't-remember
* William So Yong Kang's sentimental hits, all the songs from David Tao's eponymous album (his first and best), Sandy Lam, Karen Mok and
... I'll add on this list...
(No Beethoven though - so loud and dramatic people will wonder if I'll rise from the coffin.)
4) Miscellaneous music
I thought the updated 'Nam o' chant played during my uncle's send-off was really pleasant with the bird songs incorporated before the repetitive chant began (btw, no funeral march for me, no wailing or calling my name, and 2 nights at the void deck is more than enough, thank you.) The remix is a welcome change from the traditional version. That reminds me - bird songs from my 'Singapore birds' CD will do well as a balm for grieving souls - from the elusive straw-headed bulbuls, ioras, the much-heard-but-unseen gerygones....
That's all for the time being for a morbid topic... let me scooter off to touch some wood....